I’ve decided to take a break from triathlon this year. Not from exercise completely, but from triathlon. My only goal for this year is to run the Atlanta Half Marathon with my wife on Thanksgiving Day. For a guy that typically is always training from something, this is a welcome relief. But, a few people have asked, “Why!?!” So, I thought it would be nice to explain.
The truth is I have to adjust my priorities and there simply isn’t enough time for me to do everything I really want and need to be doing in my life and so to reduce the stress, I have to let some things go. Triathlon was a logical choice because it takes up 12-15 hours a week. Obviously, I could have given up work, but I like to eat and sleep indoors.
Everywhere I go I hear people talking about how “crazy busy” they are and how they don’t have time to do it all. So, I decided a few years ago, that I wasn’t going to be a drone that just keeps adding things to my schedule. I set up a process to determine how things get added to my calendar. This isn’t perfect and there are seasons of my life that are busier than they should be, but I make a big deal out of keeping some time margin in my life.
In my current job I simply cannot commit to 12-15 hours of exercise each week and spend enough time with my wife to maintain our relationship. That relationship is my biggest time priority.
Choosing my Wife
I choose my wife ahead of everything else. And that means that I also choose her goals and dreams above my own. Last year she cheered me on as I conquered a Half-Iron Man event. She stood outside watching me exercise for 8 hours. This year it is her time to achieve and I’m not going to miss it.
In 2013 as I was getting starting in Triathlon and re-engaged in running, my wife one day said that she didn’t think she could ever do a 5k. So I challenged her and said that if she trained I would run a 5k with her. So, we did. A couple of days before Christmas I paced her as she completed her first ever 5k run.
After her 5k she said she would never be able to run a 10k. So, in 2014 I challenged her to run a 10k. So, she trained and on Thanksgiving morning she ran her first ever 10k and I was right beside her again.
After that you would think she would stop saying she could never do something, but you’d be wrong. Earlier this year she said she didn’t think she could run a Half-Marathon, but that she really wanted to get a medal for running a race. So, I signed her up for her first 13.1.
I have picked up a touch of plantar fasciitis and while I could probably train around it and complete my second 70.3, there is a very real probability that I would be unable to complete the half-marathon with Courtney in November. I couldn’t do it. I choose her. So, I’ve dropped out of all of my races this year except that race. I’m planning to lift weights, do yoga, and swim while I’m rehabbing my feet. I’ll start training to run in late August. That should give me enough time to be ready to see Courtney accomplish yet another distance.
I promise you’ll never regret choosing your wife. Ever.